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You Don't Have To Agree With Your Wife - Thursday Thoughts
While it's important to understand your wife...
You don't have to agree with everything she says.
And really, you shouldn't.
From my upcoming book:
As Stephen Covey puts it, it’s “seek first to understand.” Now, a lot of people mistake understanding for agreement. You don’t have to agree with everything your wife says. And really, you shouldn’t. Winston Churchill said “If two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.” Your differences are important and help you grow.
In marriage, you don’t have to agree with your wife’s opinions about money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or how free time is spent. You don’t have to agree about decorations in the house. You don’t even have to agree about politics.
But, if you want to get to win-win agreements (coming in the following chapters), you do need to understand her perspective. She needs to have psychological air to feel safe enough to share her opinions and to get to where you can both have a reasonable, calm discussion.
If you want to learn the skills to have the win-win discussions to create a marriage full of sexual, mental and emotional intimacy...
Apply to join Strong Men Strong Marriages.
You'll fill out an application and be guided to your best next steps.
Dr. Mike
While it's important to understand your wife...
You don't have to agree with everything she says.
And really, you shouldn't.
From my upcoming book:
As Stephen Covey puts it, it’s “seek first to understand.” Now, a lot of people mistake understanding for agreement. You don’t have to agree with everything your wife says. And really, you shouldn’t. Winston Churchill said “If two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.” Your differences are important and help you grow.
In marriage, you don’t have to agree with your wife’s opinions about money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or how free time is spent. You don’t have to agree about decorations in the house. You don’t even have to agree about politics.
But, if you want to get to win-win agreements (coming in the following chapters), you do need to understand her perspective. She needs to have psychological air to feel safe enough to share her opinions and to get to where you can both have a reasonable, calm discussion.
If you want to learn the skills to have the win-win discussions to create a marriage full of sexual, mental and emotional intimacy...
Apply to join Strong Men Strong Marriages.
You'll fill out an application and be guided to your best next steps.
Dr. Mike