Strong Men Strong Marriages

My Wife Keeps Bringing Up My Past Mistakes - What Do I Do?

September 13, 2022 Mike Frazier, MD Episode 127
Strong Men Strong Marriages
My Wife Keeps Bringing Up My Past Mistakes - What Do I Do?
Show Notes

This is one of the most common problems I see in the men I work with.

It can be VERY frustrating to feel like you’re changing, but have your wife keep bringing up your past mistakes.

What you have to understand about this is that your wife is HURT.

And YOU are the one who hurt her.

And over time, the wound you have caused her has become infected.

And so, when you tell her to “get over it” or “move forward” or “trust you,” you’re basically trying to put a band aid on an infection.

Instead, you need to:

  1. Deeply understand her pain. This is like letting the wound drain.
  2. Make permanent changes. This is what helps the wound heal.

Learn about these principles in today’s episode:

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. To make permanent changes, you need to:

  1. Identify and eliminate negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting
  2. Replace those with positive, attractive patterns
  3. Repeat those new patterns over and over until you can’t get them wrong

These are the three steps we follow in my program, Love, Intimacy and Legacy.

If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.P.S. Weekly wins from men in the program (anonymized for privacy):

-Mental, emotional and sexual infidelity… even after infidelity

-Fun at in-laws, where before it was always a pain

-Turning old conflicts about parenting into more connection

-Turning a bad mood from work into a good mood and enjoying a great evening with family