Strong Men Strong Marriages

Does Your Childhood Impact Your Marriage?

October 11, 2022 Mike Frazier, MD Episode 131
Strong Men Strong Marriages
Does Your Childhood Impact Your Marriage?
Show Notes

I used to think that it didn’t.  At least not for me. A guy who had an overall good upbringing.


But, I recently did a hypnotherapy session with AJ Yager that changed my mind about this.


And now, I’m implementing that learning with my clients with powerful results.


Most high achieving me learned a certain lesson at some point:


I need to take care of myself emotionally. No one else is going to. And, I have to take care of the emotions of people around me.


And, I should stuff my emotions and get to work.


Sometimes that lesson is learned through neglect as a child, sometimes through abuse, or drug or alcohol abuse by parents.


Sometimes, that lesson is learned just by high expectations by parents or church or community, where you learn the lesson that to be loved and valued, you needed to achieve and be happy (or at least look happy).


So, you learned to suck it up and get stuff done. And you have excelled at work because of this.


But, at home, you are subconsciously reliant on your wife for the attention, appreciation and affection you wanted as a kid. The unconditional love that you wanted.


So you’re needy with her. And you’re hard on your kids, because you are trying to enforce the same lesson of “just deal with it.”


Fortunately, there’s a better way. You can mentally travel back in time and take care of that younger you. You can thank him for his service, and then let him be a kid and take care of him.


You can access God’s power and Jesus’s power to let him know he’s OK and loved as he is.


You can create a team that cares for that younger you. So now, you feel strong and solid at a very deep level. And you’re not as needy with your wife. And you’re a better father.


Learn more in today’s episode, including details of my journey through this experience with AJ.


Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.


Watch on YouTube here.


Dr. Mike


P.S. To check out AJ’s work click here. Let him know you heard about him from me!


P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…


CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.


You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!